Should I Quit Him?



Posted: Wednesday, October 14, 2009

by M Buford
http://mmb01.webs.com

You all have heard of the 80-20 rule. If not, here is a quick rundown. If you can deal with 80% of what your man does, then his is a keeper. The other 20% is supposed to be minor stuff, and nobody is perfect, right? But what if the 80% is money and not love. This is the one me and my girlfriends discuss the most. Could you grow to love him? That what the older people used to say when I was younger. Is that true? Is it enough, money?

Well I am older now, and for most of my friends, Yes', it is enough. How much older? That is none of your business and it is not the issue. The issue is as we grow older, our needs change. Our perspective on love is different than the younger generation. You see I used our old term quit' in my title. That is what we used to call it, when we broke up with a guy. This generation has more mature decisions than we used to have. I believe their live is more serious than when we were growing up. Or we may have just hid it better. I am not sure. Now we have young girls, who may not have had a father in their lives, who are looking for someone to take care of them. An older man with money is their goal. What happens as he gets significantly older, and you are hitting your prime? Is the money still enough?

My hope for the younger generation is the 80% is love. There are only a few things in life more beautiful than seeing a couple who has been married for over 50 years. They got married young, and took on all of life challenges together. That is a beautiful thing. That is something we all want. Life sometimes just does not end up the way you have it planned. To be married 50 years, you have seen all the good and all the bad life has to offer together.

My advice to Should I Quit Him' is to be true to yourself. You know deep down what are really feeling.

Logically test the 80-20 rule. Then listen to your heart and gut. You should know by now, love does not hurt, and money cannot buy you love. Whatever you decide, stand by it. Do not be unfair to him by continuing just for the part you like, knowing you are not going to stay with him. Be a lady and truthful with him. If you are deceitful; it will only hurt you in the long run. If you are honest; you cannot lose.

Best Wishes!!

M. Buford


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